this is for my fellow faders...just checking to see how it is going for ya'll?.
i know it can be tough...my fade has been going well thus far...hopefully it remains the same!.
people may think of you differently...as being distracted...no longer loving jehovah...giving in to the world ect.... now i couldn't care less what any of them think of me...i went into town a few days go where some jw's were doing street work at the local market and i walked by them like they never even existed .
@whichwaytogo: I don't know the nature of your situation...but are you in a position where you could apply for a job that requires traveling (wether locally or internationally)?
If the circumstances are right, then moving to another area can be justified, without raising too much suspicion. However if you move, they'll perhaps want to send your publisher card to the congregation/area you'll be moving to.
If you move away & keep a low profile in your new area, you may be able to fade just fine. In my experience, the CO nor DO asked for me after i stepped down as an MS and moved away!
@Abiblestudent: I've just been maintaining a work relationship with the young lady I mentioned in my first post...I did like her before I found out she was a devout JW.
@roberta804: hahahahaha....thx for the laugh! I'm being a "good boy".
@whathappend: The second sister I met is much more reserved, doesn't mention anything about being a JW...she does well with our clients, but not that social with co-workers! I think she's going tru the motions...The first sister I mentioned seems very blind...such a pity for a young, industrious lady! She gives folks at work literature and stuff like that! I find it odd that for a devout JW, she doeshang out with "wordly" people at various social events!
this is for my fellow faders...just checking to see how it is going for ya'll?.
i know it can be tough...my fade has been going well thus far...hopefully it remains the same!.
people may think of you differently...as being distracted...no longer loving jehovah...giving in to the world ect.... now i couldn't care less what any of them think of me...i went into town a few days go where some jw's were doing street work at the local market and i walked by them like they never even existed .
Yes...I've moved away from my "home" congregation and have been traveling...this is a part of my job! My parents weren't too supportive because i was suppose to remain a MS & help build up the congregation...
I do turn in FS hours, but don't go out in the ministry...my publisher card is at my home congregation....I told them not to send it after me because I do lots of traveling...with regards to meetings, I come on here for any updates!
Ironically, I prayed that I got a job where I could be away from "home"...
Just found out that another girl at at my workplace is a JW
The local stores not too far from my current workplace is a popular spot for JW's doing street work / magazine work. So this new lady was out on a Friday afternoon doing street work with a couple other older sisters from her hall....I saw her, but she didn't see me. The next morning I went to work & said "hey Mary, I saw you walking with some friends at XYZ store yesturday all dressed up". Her reply "yes, I was just walking around" She doesn't talk about the JW's at work nor did she admit to what she was doing...maybe she's just going tru the motions?
On another note...I think my desk is the only one at work that doesn't have a tract, brochure or magazine on it....the folks this side of town are somewhat religous and are more liberal, very open...so they'll take the literature
I'm working on something to leave a small note in the literature I see all over the place...I wan't to leave something other than just the jwfacts website or this one...
this is for my fellow faders...just checking to see how it is going for ya'll?.
i know it can be tough...my fade has been going well thus far...hopefully it remains the same!.
people may think of you differently...as being distracted...no longer loving jehovah...giving in to the world ect.... now i couldn't care less what any of them think of me...i went into town a few days go where some jw's were doing street work at the local market and i walked by them like they never even existed .
This is for my fellow faders...just checking to see how it is going for ya'll?
I know it can be tough...my fade has been going well thus far...hopefully it remains the same!
People may think of you differently...as being distracted...no longer loving Jehovah...giving in to the world ect...
Now I couldn't care less what any of them think of me...I went into town a few days go where some JW's were doing street work at the local market and I walked by them like they never even existed
Welcome aboard! You've raised some important points & it is good that you're questioning things...I stepped down as an MS a couple months ago, so i can relate.
i've been lurking here for some time and now that i've registered here's a little bit about myself... i'm in northern europe (so english is not my own language,but i have indeed studied it for more than 18 months) and i was born into this hateful cult in the "momentuous" year of -75.good that my parents stayed alive till then!.
as far back as i can remember i had doubts both about the doctrines and the whole existence of god.however,i instinctively knew that these doubts are not to be mentioned.so i learned to be a fake at an early age.though having read many other stories here i realise how easy i got it.i now understand that we lived in a rather liberal area and also my family was quite liberal eventhough my dad was an elder since mid -80 and mom was really "strong in the truth".i never brought up the religion at school or with friends and was never bullied or anything.it helped that i was good at sports,especially football (soccer for americans) and football is also the source of my biggest hurt in childhood.i know it may sound very trivial,but the fact that i wasn't allowed to join a football team felt just so unjust and painfull and it lasted all through my childhood.whenever we had a new gym teacher,the first thing he asked me was which team do i play for.i was too embarrased to tell the truth and i just gave the impression that i only wanted to play for fun and not join any team.oh,how badly i wanted to!.
somehow i managed to silence all those doubts and got babtised as a young man.very soon after the babtism i knew that it didn't have the hoped for effect of making me more spiritual and meetings and field service still felt an absolute bore.now began the long years of just "going through the motions".all my family (parents,many brothers and sisters,uncles and aunts,nieces and nephews) and most of my friends were in.i never reached out and attended only one or two meetings a week and penned my hours.i kind of liked my congregation (also,the seats at our kh were really comfy,so i often slept through the meetings) and made some very good friends.friends that - as you all can guess- didn't turn out to be so good in the end,but with whom i nonetheless had some good times and felt a strong connection to.. for a long time nothing happened that would've disrupted my rather non-eventfull life as a lacklustre jdub with at least another foot in the "world".i'd done many things that would've gotten me d'fed,but i never had any intentions of going to the elders about it and i had no pangs of conscience about it either.it was just a matter of convenience..i liked my witness friends,wanted to hold on to them and not to lose my family.. however..there was this girl... a (worldly,of course) girl that i had absolutely fell for and had a brief romance with many years ago.now she was back in my life.i must omit the proceeding turns of events for the sake of anonymity,but the end result is that i'm a proud father of a lovely baby girl.well,not so much baby anymore as she starts school soon.i love her so much and it gives me great satisfaction that she is growing free from any influence of vicious cults or of any gods for that matter.we live now in different countries but i see her often and there's always skype.. her birth also acted as a catalyst for the change in relationship between me and the society.i decided that i wanted to share the joy of her birth and existence with my family,eventhough i also knew that that would mean i'd have to go the elders too.if i didn't,they would,and that would result in automatic disfellowshippping.. a jc was duly formed and i had decided that i'm not going to go there and tell them that i regret her,as having her is the best thing that's ever happeded to me.
